Religious Recovery
This place is for those who have been hurt by the church and feel the trauma of purity culture deep in their bones.
The full expression of your sexual self is welcome and celebrated here.
We all receive messages and cultural conditioning about what is appropriate to do, to desire, or to be sexually. For those of us who grew up in the church, the messages are usually more extreme and saturated with a thick layer of guilt and shame. Sex is for procreating, within a monogamous marriage, between a man and a woman. If we are queer, or uninterested in marriage or children, there is no space for us to be sexual beings within the eyes of the church.
We are taught to distrust the wisdom and desires of our bodies and seek understanding outside of ourselves. We may have completely stifled our sexual selves in an attempt to be good, pure, and holy. We may have split ourselves into the person that is edified by the teachings of the church and the person who is secretly lusting and desiring the joys of the flesh. Either way, we are unable to be our full selves.
Even long after we leave Christianity behind, our mind and body can still feel the effects of that conditioning. Our heads and hearts can flash the green light during romantic or sexual encounters, but our body won’t cooperate because of our years spent denying or hiding our sexual selves.
In matters of the heart, we get to honor and define our gender expression, sexual orientation, and sexual preferences as our own - because we are good and whole just as we are.
Beyond that, we deserve to enjoy every amazing expression of our pleasure.
No matter what you have been told, remember this:
You are normal.
There is nothing wrong with your process.
Your desires are beautiful.
You are not alone.
Breath heals - Touch heals - Pleasure heals - Orgasm heals
When you tap more fully into your own erotic desires and explore your pleasure healing will occur. That which the church says is dirty, unnatural, or unholy can be transformed into your greatest power. This process can bring up many conflicting feelings, from elation and disappointment to arousal and anger. I will sit with you as you process grief, release shame, and take steps toward reclaiming your sexuality as your own.
Through embodied listening, breathwork, and connective touch based exercises, we will explore what what avenues of healing are best for your current needs and goals.
Religious Recovery Pleasure Coaching could be for you if:
You feel nervous about being sexual with yourself or others.
You feel deep shame about being sexual.
You have a hard time knowing what you want and how to ask for it.
You want to know more about sex.
You want to come out as queer, kinky, non-monogamous, sexual.
You feel disconnected from your body and your pleasure.
You want more joy and ease exploring your sexuality.
You are a later life virgin and want to support your sexual exploration.
You kissed dating goodbye and would like to kiss it hello again.
You’ve never had an orgasm.
You want support figuring out your sexual values and how to live them.
You want a safe, non-judgmental place to talk about sex.
You have complicated feelings about fantasies and lusty thoughts.
